I want them to play to their strengths

Choose strength not shame Ben Foss at TEDxSonomaCounty
TEDx Talks
Jun 19, 2014

1:46 Realizing that I have strengths I can play to
decide if I was ready to go to the edge and try on a new version of who I was

3:29 move to doing life by your strengths because
We should be measured by what we can do, not by what we can’t

3:55 Goya: The Spanish Inquisition

8:40 you are going to fail without context
that lack of context leads to a script that you are lazy or stupid. And that gets embedded because at this time in your life the concrete of your personality is wet, and something that lands in it hardens there and will take later work to get it out

11:08 What they’re trying to say is you can’t do this

11:28 When you’re trying to get rid of shame you do not want to do this on your own.
The point of not being shamed is not being isolated. So you want a coach.
[related: https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2017/06/16/william-h-mcraven]

12:34 My favorite illiterate of all time: Socrates
In Phaedrus he specifically warns against the writing down of language.
He said it will make us forget the memories of our souls.
He wanted us to be in dialogue, like in TED, to be here in person, but it wouldn’t have been as effective.
Basically Socrates was against Facebook and Tweeter.

14:43 Shame is feeling bad about who you are. An immutable characteristic that you can’t get rid of or it is a pattern that would be very hard to break.

16:34 I was proud because I changed the narrative
I wanted to believe that I was competent

17:35 I could have gone for three scripts:
I could have gone for blame.
I could have gone for contempt, and
I could have gone for comparison
Those are the negative scripts.
Instead I went for “This is hilarious!”

19:44 I want them to play to their strengths
As they grow up, they’re going to be given negative scripts. They could internalize the scripts.

I want to learn how to bring out her strengths

When you find your learning style extraordinary things will happen

How we suppress genius and create learning disability
Scott Sonnon at TEDxBellingham
TEDx Talks
Nov 23, 2013

tachi-psychia
“time warp”
10:35 When you find your learning style extraordinary things will happen

12:00 sixth sense: mecano reception
kinesthesia

71 different learning styles:
1 is verbal linguistic
70 are non-verbal “dyslexic” learning styles

The True Gifts of a Dyslexic Mind
Dean Bragonier | TEDxMarthasVineyard
TEDx Talks
Nov 24, 2015

Brené Brown at TEDxHouston 2010

Brené Brown at TEDxHouston 2010
Expanding perceptions 2010

Stories are just data with a soul

12:40 Vulnerability
14:50 What makes you feel vulnerable?

16:00 We can’t selectively numb an emotion

I want to understand them. I want to hack into these things that I know are important and lay the code out for everyone to see.

And I know that’s knowing laughter. I hack into your lives for a living.