What’s especially interesting?

Writing Restaurants with Michelle Wildgen
October 8, 2014

In her novel “Bread and Butter,” Michelle Wildgen takes us behind the scenes at two upscale restaurants owned by brothers.  Sibling rivalry has never been so delicious.

6:20 What’s especially interesting?
What I’m asking is: You know this kitchen, or you should. I expect for you to say “Everything is great.” but I wanna know what is especially well done.

Deadening conversation with music

The Novelist and the Cook – Alice Waters and Michelle Wildgen
October 8, 2014

Novelist Michelle Wildgen shares a conversation about food, art, and the creative imagination with chef and food activist Alice Waters, founder of the legendary Berkeley restaurant Chez Panisse.

puritan ideas: individuality, hard work. We forget about pleasure.

values that have been with us since the beginning of time

Fast food culture: it’s trying to cutt off, deaden conversation with music

Voice Technologies Shape The Sound of Our Modern World

Jonathan Sterne on How Voice Technologies Shape The Sound of Our Modern World
November 22, 2015

For as closely linked as the voice is to our body and sense of identity, there are also a lot of external forces affecting our voices, both social and technological. In fact, when we’re talking about mediated voices—voices we hear in music, film, and of course, on the radio—we’re actually not talking about “voices” any more. We’re talking about signal processing. And, as media historian Jonathan Sterne tells Craig Eley, signal processing shapes the sound of all vocal media, from your telephone calls to the music of T-Pain.

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This
JAN. 9, 2015

More than 20 years ago, the psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory. Last summer, I applied his technique in my own life, which is how I found myself standing on a bridge at midnight, staring into a man’s eyes for exactly four minutes.

Let me explain. Earlier in the evening, that man had said: “I suspect, given a few commonalities, you could fall in love with anyone. If so, how do you choose someone?”

He was a university acquaintance I occasionally ran into at the climbing gym and had thought, “What if?” I had gotten a glimpse into his days on Instagram. But this was the first time we had hung out one-on-one.

“Actually, psychologists have tried making people fall in love,” I said, remembering Dr. Aron’s study. “It’s fascinating. I’ve always wanted to try it.” …


The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings
Pers Soc Psychol Bull April 1997   vol. 23  no. 4  363-377
Arthur Aron
A practical methodology is presented for creating closeness in an experimental context.
Whether or not an individual is in a relationship, particular pairings of individuals in the relationship, and circumstances of relationship development become manipulated variables. Over a 45-min period subject pairs carry out self-disclosure and relationship-building tasks that gradually escalate in intensity.

Molding reality so that it’s palatable

You & Your Brain – Julian Keenan


It turns out that even the most basic things we believe about ourselves are often wrong.
Neuroscientist Julian Keenan says it has to do with how the brain works.
He’s the author of the “Face in the Mirror: How We Know Who We Are.”

Cartesian Theater,”the idea that there’s someone inside my head looking at someone inside my head who’s looking at someone inside my head and you keep going in that circle.

one of the key components of the self is molding reality not so that it’s real but so that it’s palatable.

theory of mind
you can think about what I’m thinking about what you’re thinking about my thinking.
We can go back and forth with this like cognitive gymnastics where we get into each other’s minds.

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