1. Start off in the right place. Everyone has a different background, everyone has a different set of knowledge …
2. Don’t go too far down the rabbit hole.
3. Clarity beats accuracy
4. Explain what you think is cool
Dark and difficult times lie ahead. Soon we must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy.
A. P. W. B. Dumbledore
Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
3. Find the “Me too”‘s
4. Pay a unique compliment
10:20 Ask for an opinion.
All of us have opinions. And we all want them to be heard. And everybody wants validation.
7. Name, place, animal, thing
The art of conversation
Why Do We Gossip?
13.7: Cosmos And Culture : NPR
May 17, 2016
By some estimates, around 60 percent of time spend in conversation with other people involves some form of gossip about social relationships or personal experiences.
Making The Case For Face To Face In An Era Of Digital Conversation
September 26, 2015
Sherry Turkle, a professor of Social Studies of Science and Technology at MIT … Her new book is called
Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age.
Penguin Press, October 2015
She is also the author of the books The Second Self and Alone Together.
I was called to consult at a middle school because the directors and the teachers were concerned about what they felt was a lack of empathy among middle school children which they associated to the presence of technology. The association they made was when they sit together at lunch they don’t talk to each other — they talk with their phones. Face to face conversation is the most human and humanizing thing that we do; it’s where we learn to put ourselves in the place of the other.
How to Be a Better Conversationalist
Good Small Talk Makes Us Likable, But It’s Easy to Get Rusty—How to Avoid Dominating and Being Dominated in a Conversation
By Elizabeth Bernstein
Aug. 12, 2013
There is an art to elegantly starting, sustaining and ending a dialogue with strangers or friends.
Experts call it conversational intelligence. Others call it the gift of gab.
Hard as it may be for chatty people to believe, not everyone is born with it.
Successful Negotiation: Essential Strategies and Skills
University of Michigan
What is it that you actually do?
Prof. Elizabeth Stokoe takes a run on what she terms the “conversational racetrack”—the daily race to understand each other when we speak—and explains how to avoid hurdles that trip us up and cause conflict.
Elizabeth Stokoe is a British scientist. She studies conversation analysis. She is a professor at Loughborough University. She graduated from the University of Central Lancashire (Preston Poly) in 1993 with a traditional psychology degree. Then Stokoe completed three years PhD research at Nene College (Leicester University) with Dr. Eunice Fisher.
Her research included videotaping interaction in university tutorials, and conducting conversation analyses of topic production, topic management, academic identity, and the relevance of gender. She developed these and other interests while working at the Institute of Behavioural Sciences (University of Derby, 1997-2000) and University College Worcester (2000-2002).
Stokoe joined the Department of Social Sciences at Loughborough in October 2002 and was promoted to Reader (2007) and Chair (2009). She teaches on the BSc Social Psychology programme, covering modules in relationships, qualitative methods and forensic psychology.
Stokoe developed the Conversation Analytic Role-play Method (CARM), an approach based on evidence about what sorts of problems and roadblocks can occur in conversation, as well as the techniques and strategies that best resolve these problems. CARM won Loughborough University’s Social Enterprise award (2013).