remade all the time, made new

ursula“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone;
it has to be made, like bread;
remade all the time, made new.”
Ursula LeGuin

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Positive Psychology
Coursera. March 2016
The University of North Carolina at Chapell Hill



To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This

To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This
JAN. 9, 2015

More than 20 years ago, the psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory. Last summer, I applied his technique in my own life, which is how I found myself standing on a bridge at midnight, staring into a man’s eyes for exactly four minutes.

Let me explain. Earlier in the evening, that man had said: “I suspect, given a few commonalities, you could fall in love with anyone. If so, how do you choose someone?”

He was a university acquaintance I occasionally ran into at the climbing gym and had thought, “What if?” I had gotten a glimpse into his days on Instagram. But this was the first time we had hung out one-on-one.

“Actually, psychologists have tried making people fall in love,” I said, remembering Dr. Aron’s study. “It’s fascinating. I’ve always wanted to try it.” …


The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings
Pers Soc Psychol Bull April 1997   vol. 23  no. 4  363-377
Arthur Aron
A practical methodology is presented for creating closeness in an experimental context.
Whether or not an individual is in a relationship, particular pairings of individuals in the relationship, and circumstances of relationship development become manipulated variables. Over a 45-min period subject pairs carry out self-disclosure and relationship-building tasks that gradually escalate in intensity.

Ian McLagan’s Song For A Muse

Ian McLagan’s Song For A Muse
June 20, 2014

Rocker Ian McLagan has been singing and playing keyboards for almost half a century. He’s played with Rod Stewart, Bob Dylan, The Rolling Stones and The Faces. In 2012 he was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. But it hasn’t always been an easy road.

“Well there, was a time when I gave up music,” McLagan says. “But actually what I had given up was drugs and the people I was playing with. They weren’t making me happy.”

McLagan credits his late wife Kim, whom he married in 1978 and was with until her death in 2006, with helping him find his way back to music. His latest album, United States, includes a tribute to her called “Love Letter.”

“I have all the love letters I sent her on the road that I had completely forgotten about — just postcards from different places around the world. She kept them all,” McLagan says.



Measures Of Affection: Five Musical Love Letters

Measures Of Affection: Five Musical Love Letters
by Tom Huizenga
February 13, 2013

Peter Lieberson to Lorraine Hunt Lieberson: from Neruda Songs
Pablo Neruda: Cien sonetos de amor. Santiago, Editorial Universitaria, 1959

Jonas Kaufma nn On Wagner: ‘It’s Like A Drug Sometimes’
February 16, 2013

Urban Dictionary: “I Like You For Who You Are”



The Parenting Dance: Hold Tight While Letting Go

The Parenting Dance: Hold Tight While Letting Go
November 18, 2011

“Q&A” from StoryCorps
( video 4:00 min)

Joshua Littman, a 12-year-old boy with Asperger’s syndrome, interviews his mother, Sarah. Joshua’s unique questions and Sarah’s loving, unguarded answers reveal a beautiful relationship that reminds us of the best—and the most challenging—parts of being a parent.


Someday has to be today
anti-bullying speech


Music Therapy As a Treatment Modality for Autism Spectrum Disorders


Emotional contagion for pain …
January 2014

Early Intervention For Toddlers With Autism Showing Signs Of Success
Oct 14, 2014

Paul Collins and Jennifer Elder
July 14, 2011

Hit Me With Your Best Shot
This American Life. September 15, 2006

September 18, 2014
Owen Suskind