Happiness: Giving, Relating, Exercising


The Ten Keys to Happier Living
Vanessa King of Action for Happiness
Apr 1, 2016

2:12 Having a sense of control in our lives is an absolutely fundamental ingredient in happiness.
[related: https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/category/behavior-sense-of-agency ]

mindful awareness

17:20 It’s a menu, it’s not a prescription.
What works for each of us is different. And we need different things at different times.



Are your happiness goals too high?

Are your happiness goals too high?
James Baraz | January 17, 2017

Although I’m all for enjoying peak experiences when they arise, measuring that ideal against a moderate level of okayness can easily render this moment as “not good enough.”

Rick Hanson says: “The brain is like Teflon for positive experiences and Velcro for negative ones.”

Sonja Lyubomirsky: Finding the Right Fit

Misconceptions about Happiness
September 2014
Greater Good Science Center

Happiness comes from a lot of different things.
For different people, different practices, different pieces of knowledge
are going to contribute more impactful or less impactful ways. This is an idea that
Sonja Lyubormirsky from UC Riverside calls fit.

The Science of Happiness
Berkeley University of California


Sonja Lyubomirsky: Finding the Right Fit
Greater Good Science Center
July 2010

The riddle of experience vs. memory

Daniel Kahneman: The riddle of experience vs. memory
Using examples from vacations to colonoscopies, Nobel laureate and founder of behavioral economics Daniel Kahneman reveals how our “experiencing selves” and our “remembering selves” perceive happiness differently.


14:20 What controls satisfaction:
– money
– goals
– spending time with people we like

Humans find learning pleasurable

humans and other primates find learning and mastery deeply, even biologically, pleasurable under the right conditions, though often not the ones they face in school.[13]
p. 24

13. Deborah Blum, Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affection (Cambridge, MA: Perseus,

Gee, James Paul. “Learning and Games.


Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affection
N Engl J Med 2003; 348:670-671February 13, 2003
Harlow showed that monkeys could learn to disassemble a complex puzzle without the reward of food as easily as they could with the reward — a result inconsistent with the commonly assumed primacy of drive reduction in learning.

‘Love at Goon Park’: The Science of Love
February 2, 2003
The phrase ”contact comfort” was made famous through Harry Harlow’s experiments with baby rhesus monkeys at the University of Wisconsin in the 1950’s and 60’s.

He has a heart of gold

Dan Gilbert: The surprising science of happiness
February 2004 at TED2004

8:30 synthetic happiness

The psychological immune system works best when we are totally stuck, when we are trapped. This is the difference between dating and marriage. You go out on a date with a guy, and he picks his nose; you don’t go out on another date. You’re married to a guy and he picks his nose? He has a heart of gold. Don’t touch the fruitcake!
You find a way to be happy with what’s happened.

We should have preferences that lead us into one future over another. But when those preferences drive us too hard and too fast because we have overrated the difference between these futures, we are at risk.
When our ambition is bounded, it leads us to work joyfully. When our ambition is unbounded, it leads us to lie, to cheat, to steal, to hurt others, to sacrifice things of real value.
When our fears are bounded, we’re prudent, we’re cautious, we’re thoughtful. When our fears are unbounded and overblown, we’re reckless, and we’re cowardly.


The way we’re working isn’t working: Tony Schwartz at TEDxMidwest  
TEDx Talks
June 26, 2012

The Science of Happiness: What Your Mother Didn’t Tell You
Prof. Dan Gilbert
PresidentialConf, 2013

How’s Life at Home?

How’s Life at Home? New Evidence on Marriage and the Set Point for Happiness
John F. Helliwell, Shawn Grover
NBER Working Paper No. 20794
December 2014

Subjective well-being research has often found that marriage is positively correlated with well-being. Some have argued that this correlation may be result of happier people being more likely to marry. Others have presented evidence suggesting that the well-being benefits of marriage are short-lasting. Using data from the British Household Panel Survey, we control individual pre-marital well-being levels and find that the married are still more satisfied, suggesting a causal effect, even after full allowance is made for selection effects. Using new data from the United Kingdom’s Annual Population Survey, we find that the married have a less deep U-shape in life satisfaction across age groups than do the unmarried, indicating that marriage may help ease the causes of the mid-life dip in life satisfaction and that the benefits of marriage are unlikely to be short-lived. We explore friendship as a mechanism which could help explain a causal relationship between marriage and life satisfaction, and find that well-being effects of marriage are about twice as large for those whose spouse is also their best friend.

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