I want them to play to their strengths

Choose strength not shame Ben Foss at TEDxSonomaCounty
TEDx Talks
Jun 19, 2014

1:46 Realizing that I have strengths I can play to
decide if I was ready to go to the edge and try on a new version of who I was

3:29 move to doing life by your strengths because
We should be measured by what we can do, not by what we can’t

3:55 Goya: The Spanish Inquisition

8:40 you are going to fail without context
that lack of context leads to a script that you are lazy or stupid. And that gets embedded because at this time in your life the concrete of your personality is wet, and something that lands in it hardens there and will take later work to get it out

11:08 What they’re trying to say is you can’t do this

11:28 When you’re trying to get rid of shame you do not want to do this on your own.
The point of not being shamed is not being isolated. So you want a coach.
[related: https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2017/06/16/william-h-mcraven]

12:34 My favorite illiterate of all time: Socrates
In Phaedrus he specifically warns against the writing down of language.
He said it will make us forget the memories of our souls.
He wanted us to be in dialogue, like in TED, to be here in person, but it wouldn’t have been as effective.
Basically Socrates was against Facebook and Tweeter.

14:43 Shame is feeling bad about who you are. An immutable characteristic that you can’t get rid of or it is a pattern that would be very hard to break.

16:34 I was proud because I changed the narrative
I wanted to believe that I was competent

17:35 I could have gone for three scripts:
I could have gone for blame.
I could have gone for contempt, and
I could have gone for comparison
Those are the negative scripts.
Instead I went for “This is hilarious!”

19:44 I want them to play to their strengths
As they grow up, they’re going to be given negative scripts. They could internalize the scripts.

I want to learn how to bring out her strengths

When you find your learning style extraordinary things will happen

How we suppress genius and create learning disability
Scott Sonnon at TEDxBellingham
TEDx Talks
Nov 23, 2013

tachi-psychia
“time warp”
10:35 When you find your learning style extraordinary things will happen

12:00 sixth sense: mecano reception
kinesthesia

71 different learning styles:
1 is verbal linguistic
70 are non-verbal “dyslexic” learning styles

The True Gifts of a Dyslexic Mind
Dean Bragonier | TEDxMarthasVineyard
TEDx Talks
Nov 24, 2015

You should enjoy this

Neil Gaiman Turns His Grad Speech Into ‘Good Art’
May 14, 2013
http://www.npr.org/2013/05/14/183950906/author-neil-gaiman-on-making-good-art

0:32 I got out into the world and wrote, and I became a better writer the more I wrote, and I wrote some more.

On the advice he got from horror writer Stephen King:
the most important piece of advice I was ever given, came in 1992 from Stephen King:
‘This is really wonderful, this is special. You should enjoy this. Just make a point of enjoying it.’

9:11 GAIMAN: And that feeling of just having created something, it’s a very, very real thing, that being able to look around and go, I’ve just improved the world by something that wasn’t there before

The old rules are crumbling and nobody knows what the new rules are. So make up your own rules.
18:43 Someone asked me recently how to do something she thought it was going to be difficult. In this case recording an audiobook.
I suggested she pretends that she is someone who could do it. No pretend to do it, but pretend she was someone who could. She put up a note to this effect on the studio wall and she said it helped.
So be wise, because the world needs more wisdom.
And if you cannot be wise, pretend to be someone who is wise and then just behave as they would.
[related: Shonda Rhimes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGMC6WjhldM]

Now go and make interesting mistakes. Make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules, leave the world more interesting …

related:
https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2014/01/25/the-way-people-choose-to-tell-you-about-themselves

https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2013/08/13/five-ways-to-shake-things-up-at-work

Well, let’s assume he can do everything

Clues To Autism, Schizophrenia Emerge From Cerebellum Research
March 17, 2015·
http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/16/393351760/clues-to-autism-schizophrenia-emerge-from-cerebellum-research

“Putting together a puzzle of a face,” Sherman says, “he initially had put the eyes in the wrong place and then looked at my face and said, ‘Oh, no, your nose actually goes between your eyes.’ ”

http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/16/392789753/a-man-s-incomplete-brain-reveals-cerebellum-s-role-in-thought-and-emotion
But during that time doctors and developmental health experts still didn’t know why Jonathan was having so much trouble. And that turned out to be a good thing, says his father, Richard. “Not knowing what the diagnosis was we said, ‘Well, let’s assume he can do everything,’ ” he says.