Parul Sehgal: An ode to envy

Parul Sehgal: An ode to envy
July 2013 at TEDSalon NY2013
https://www.ted.com/talks/parul_sehgal_an_ode_to_envy

http://blog.ted.com/9-memorable-manic-moments-of-jealousy-in-literature

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The Interestings

‘The Interestings’: An Epic, Post-Summer Camp Coming-Of-Age
April 7, 2013
http://www.npr.org/2013/04/07/176170086/the-interestings-an-epic-post-summer-camp-coming-of-age

Are you talented if there’s no product to go with it? If you don’t become really big? Are you still the same artist that you would’ve been if nobody recognized you?

She thought it was all even and it was all fair, and of course nothing’s even and nothing’s fair.”
[related: https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2014/08/09/they-did-care-more-than-you-ever-ever-realized]

… the kind of quiet envy that you might feel for people you really love.

If [Ash and Ethan] weren’t there, she would be, probably, much more content with her life. She would think it was great. But the fact that they’re there — they’re like little gremlins saying, ‘You haven’t achieved what you should have.’
[related: https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2014/03/02/feeling-down-watching-this-will-help]

Envy Can Help Us Even When It Hurts

Envy: The Feeling Can Help Us Even When It Hurts
Wanting what another person has can spur us to better ourselves
Scientific American Mind (November 2013) Volume 24, Issue 5
By Jan Crusius and Thomas Mussweiler
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/envy-the-feeling-can-help-us-even-when-it-hurts

It’s the pain of occupying an inferior position relative to another and a desire for what that other person has.

Envy can also motivate us to try harder and perform better on challenging tasks. The trick is to learn to channel the more productive of its two forms.

Aristotle. He described its dark, destructive side and the pleasure a person can take in another’s pain, today captured by the German term schadenfreude.
He also suggested that envy could encourage people to strive harder to reach a desired state—a facet that was long overlooked in empirical investigations of envy.

Social psychologist Niels van de Ven of Tilburg University in the Netherlands and his colleagues compared how people from their home country and those from the U.S. and Spain expressed intense feelings of envy in their respective languages.
(In Dutch, as in German, Polish and Thai, two words can mean envy, whereas English and Spanish have a single word.)
In 2009 the psychologists found that regardless of language, their subjects’ experiences divided into two types:
malicious envy, characterized by negative thoughts and ill will, and
benign envy, in which hostility is less evident. Although dark feelings still factored in, the subjects mentioned more positive sentiments, such as admiration. They were more likely to believe

that the envied person deserved good fortune and to express a desire to make up the difference through their own efforts.

related:
http://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/untranslatable-german-words/schadenfreude