Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol

The psychology of seduction
Raj Persaud
Jul 7, 2016

Psychiatrist Dr Raj Persaud argues much human distress arises out relationships. But we can all become more skilled in our relationships be they in the domains of friendship, romance, work or career. Deploying the psychological principles behind seduction, the author of a new book on dysfunctional love – ‘Can’t Get You Out Of My Head’ – explains how improving how seductive you are, will also lead to benefits across many other aspects of your life, beyond just romance.


Michael Steger: What Makes Life Meaningful?

What Makes Life Meaningful: Michael Steger at TEDxCSU
March 14, 2013

Michael F. Steger is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Colorado State University. He has spent more than a decade researching people’s ability to find meaning in their lives and the benefits of living a meaningful life. In his talk, he asks the question “What Makes Life Meaningful?” and will share what psychological science can tell us about the answer. He is the co-editor of ‘Designing Positive Psychology’ and the forthcoming ‘Purpose and Meaning in the Workplace.’



…brings the good things of others to completion

ConfuciusThe Science of Happiness
Berkeley University of California
Week 1 > Philosophical and Spiritual Views on Happiness

Confucius, 2500 years ago
What does it mean to be happy? To lead a virtuous life?

an illustrative quote that really gets to the heart of the philosophy of Confucius and jen: A person of jen or humanity who finds happiness and brings it to others, brings good of others to completion and does not bring the bad in others to completion.

Happiness is some sense has an outward orientation in enhancing the welfare of others.

The Dalai Lama is part of a broader tradition in Buddhism that many of you have probably heard about where they talk about the state of peacefulness and contentedness and happiness, sometimes called nirvana.

The pathway to the state of happiness or nirvana really starts from the recognition, the first noble truth, that there are a lot of difficulties in life, there is a lot of suffering.

The second noble truth is that we suffer because of illusions, because of grasping for things that might not bring us happiness because of certain types of ignorance, that we find nirvana and happiness and peacefulness when we detach from these clinging tendencies and grasping.

practical recommendations in Buddhist philosophy that get us to this state of detachment or nirvana. Things like practicing equanimity and calmness or things like kind speech

Lao Tzu, the great Chinese philosopher, and his influential book, Tao Te Ching.
the Taoist tradition: happiness is often paradoxical. The meaning of life may not be necessarily grasped by your rational mind, you have to experience it, let it unfold.

The Eastern mindset, that you might find in China for example or Japan, is a little oriented more towards happiness as relational as connection, community, or duty.



Happiness really takes work

The Science of Happiness
Berkeley University of California
Week 1 > Welcome to the Course!

Happiness really takes work, and I really hope that you work as hard at happiness as you do at cooking a good meal or an exercise regime.
You know, some of us are born with the right genetic makeup and happiness comes easy, but for most of us, we really need tools and practices to pursue happiness.

Course Outline
Avoid toxic thoughts that impede us in our pursuit of happiness. Things like
perfectionism, how do we can overcome this toxic thoughts?

Having a Bad Week?

Having a Bad Week? Tricks for Turning It Around
By Sue Shellenbarger
April 26, 2016

magical thinking

Many people, however, have a tendency to see cause-and-effect relationships where there are none. They might interpret neutral events as negative or fall back on a magical belief, such as, “I’m being punished by the universe.”

People who see themselves as lucky might also engage in counterfactual thinking of a different sort. They imagine worse things that might have happened but didn’t, and feel grateful, according to an oft-cited study of 400 people years ago by British researcher Richard Wiseman.

It wasn’t clear which condition–feeling unlucky or lacking mental skills–caused the other, but researchers wrote the relationship might go both ways.

Another helpful technique is mental time travel, Dr. Risen says. Imagine yourself in the future; think about how, after the misfortune is over, you’ll have a good story to tell.

Superstitious rituals, such as knocking on wood, can actually help, by instilling positive expectations. Some rituals encompass a phenomenon called embodied cognition, wherein a person’s thinking is shaped by his or her physical movements. The pushing-away motion involved in knocking on wood …

positive thinking
think about things you value: network of friends and family

8 Ways You Can Survive — And Thrive

8 Ways You Can Survive — And Thrive In — Midlife
March 18, 2016

After two years of research and more than 400 interviews about midlife, former NPR reporter Barb Bradley Hagerty received dozens of insights about how to live well in the middle years. We’ve distilled them here, with a little context. And, by the way, these ideas work well for people on both sides of the midlife divide.




Seeing what we expect to see

the psychological phenomenon of “seeing what we expect to see.” … if you don’t see the value of moments of positive connection, then you are more likely to overlook opportunities to cultivate them, even if those opportunities are right in front of you.

Positive Psychology
Coursera. March 2016
The University of North Carolina at Chapell Hill