TED. Oct 2013
There is no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss. And that specter of dispair can be the engine of intimacy.
There are 3 things people tend to confuse:
What causes some people to be more resilient than other people?
You don’t think in depression that you’ve put on a grey veil and are seeing the world through the haze of a bad mood. You think that the veil has been taken away, the veil of happiness. And that now you are seeing it truly.
As I unwrapped the picture, I began to cry. And my mother came over and said “Are you crying because of the relatives you never knew? And I said, “She had the same disease I have.” I’m crying now … It’s not that I’m so sad, but I get overwhelmed …
21:27 That’s all I need now.
People come over to me and say “I think, though, if I just stick it out for another year, I think I can just get through this.” And I always say to them, “You may get through it, but you’ll never be 37 again.”
It’s a strange poverty of the English language, and indeed of many other languages, that we use the same word, depression, to describe how a kid feels when it rains on his birthday, and to describe hwo somebody feels the minute before they commit suicide.
What is the mechanism of resilience?
tolerate the fact that …
I have learned in my own depression how big an emotion can be, how it can be more real than facts, …