Emotion: more real than facts

Andrew Solomon: Depression, the secret we share
TED. Oct 2013
http://www.ted.com/talks/andrew_solomon_depression_the_secret_we_share.html

There is no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss. And that specter of dispair can be the engine of intimacy.

There are 3 things people tend to confuse:

  • depression
  • grief
  • sadness

What causes some people to be more resilient than other people?

You don’t think in depression that you’ve put on a grey veil and are seeing the world through the haze of a bad mood. You think that the veil has been taken away, the veil of happiness. And that now you are seeing it truly.

As I unwrapped the picture, I began to cry. And my mother came over and said “Are you crying because of the relatives you never knew? And I said, “She had the same disease I have.” I’m crying now … It’s not that I’m so sad, but I get overwhelmed …

21:27 That’s all I need now.

People come over to me and say “I think, though, if I just stick it out for another year, I think I can just get through this.” And I always say to them, “You may get through it, but you’ll never be 37 again.”

It’s a strange poverty of the English language, and indeed of many other languages, that we use the same word, depression, to describe how a kid feels when it rains on his birthday, and to describe hwo somebody feels the minute before they commit suicide.

What is the mechanism of resilience?
tolerate the fact that …

I have learned in my own depression how big an emotion can be, how it can be more real than facts, …

related:

https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2016/06/26/the-j-c-penneys-effect

https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2013/06/29/depression-and-socioeconomic-status

https://franzcalvo.wordpress.com/2014/01/08/the-social-animal

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