Good Boy: There’s a Better Way to Praise Your Kids
By Nolan Feeney
Feb. 12, 2013
journal Child Development
“Praising the efforts, actions and work of the kid is going to be more beneficial in their long-term persistence and [desire] to be challenged and work hard in the future.”
Such “process praise” includes comments such as “You worked really hard” or “You’re doing a great job,” which emphasize the child’s actions.
“Person praise” includes comments like “You’re so smart” or “You’re so good,” which focus on a child’s inherent qualities.
The children who grew up with more process praise were more open to challenge, and were able to identify more ways of overcoming difficult problems.
They were also more likely to say that they could improve their intelligence with hard work.
While person praise didn’t seem to have any negative effect on the children, the study suggests that process praise teaches children that their talents and abilities can be developed and improved, while person praise sends the message that their abilities are fixed and therefore not easily altered.
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